Well that’s been me lately. Just One More ___________ (fill in the blank)
Back in the hard-partying days, we always knew it was going to be a looooong night of overindulgence, and extra rounds, when the theme became “Just One More.” The eyes would roll, and we’d all get a laugh out of the certainty that Just One More, it wouldn’t be!
So what now, you ask? Am I Just One More(ing) about?
You Name It!
This insidious little virus has crept it’s way into a few key areas of my life lately.
Household – In Just One More day till we make time to really organize this place, (since we still are in post-wedding mess-mode)…
Health – It’ll be Just One More day of enjoying a delicious burger and fries without exercise, (then I’ll get back on the weight-loss track)…
Coaching – after Just One More day, I will contact that prospective client and invite them to a conversation, (which could create an astounding breakthrough in their life)…
This illusion of impeding activity and self delusion of a need to wait is crippling.
All action happens NOW.
All progress happens NOW.
All of these things that are put off, really do happen in the Now!
Nothing happens in Future. It never arrives.
Past is the same. Nothing can happen now in the past. It’s simply not changeable. Ever.
Almost all thoughts of future are waste, as are almost all thoughts of past.
What is happening Right Now, that we can take action on?
This idea came to me as I laid in bed at midnight, playing Just One More (stupid) game of Angry Birds. I was attempting to wind down to sleep. My alarm was set for 4:30 am with intentions rise early and write a blog.
I was going to do my writing in the future. I was extending my inactivity with each swipe and tap of Just One More (stupid) game of Angry Birds.
I noticed the ridiculousness. I wanted to share it with You. I realized, I could only do it Now…
I will tell you one place that the Just One More theory is really helpful…
It is the only way that my 11 1/2 Months of alcohol sobriety could have happened.
It only happened one day at a time. And each day, I said, “Just One More”…
No Quitting, No Forevers, No Commitment but what I could control Right Now.
Just One More Day Without… then Just One More…
So, which way will we use this powerful phrase next?
It could be the key to self-discipline or the procrastinational excuse to put off, once again, the life of our dreams.
And someday we might say, If I had Just One More Day, I would really do it this time…
“I think it’s very dangerous to think about anything.” – Jeremy Irons
Watching a recent episode of Tavis Smiley online – My mouth dropped as actor, Jeremy Irons, used this phrase. He was answering a question about the value and importance of his voice, to his acting career success.
“I don’t think about it. I think it’s very dangerous to think about anything. I mean it’s just part of the instrument I use to emit emotion.”
Then he goes on to tell a joke of how to ruin a young actor’s career by getting them to think about their own voice. Wow.
So, what do you think? If you dare to do such a dangerous activity??
In context, I believe he meant that to overthink or to be constantly aware of his voice would have been a distraction. It would shift his focus out of a free and natural acting moment, and into a worry-mode about the certain pitch or depth of his voice.
It really would be dangerous to think about how he is sounding, while attempting to deliver an authentic performance…
Is not Action. It’s not progress. It’s not (dare I say it) helpful 🙂
Is Mr. Irons exactly correct?
Is Thinking Dangerous??
YES. In and of itself, it is. It can consume and destroy. It cannot produce without physical expression. It is an impotent activity of self abuse, when done alone.
AND, (Double – hardy har, har) The Irony (HA!) is not lost on me that his quote says:
“I THINK, it’s very dangerous to think about anything.”
Yes, of course I’m not suggesting to our under-aware world to quit all of their mental processes, and become automatons.
But I will say that I am too often, in contemplation and insight. I am too rarely in action and movement. Experimentation and games and play is much healthier and produces results and is FUN!
Mental circles. The past. An imaginary negative future. Are all wastes of energy.
Okay, Thank You once again PBS. Thank You Tavis and Mr. Irons, for the (I can hardly contain myself!! Irony!!!) of this statement that stuck in my brain, and I will create as practice in my life…
Oh, by the way, this academy award winning actor didn’t say anything new…
“So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Matthew 6:31-33
“Still others, like seed sown among thorns, hear the word; 19 but the worries of this life, the deceitfulness of wealth and the desires for other things come in and choke the word, making it unfruitful”
Mark 4:18-19 (notice worry leads the list with greed and coveting)
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7
Thanks for checking into this weird world today – May you take this concept, skate quickly through the thoughts on it, and act today.
Believing that we ‘always this’ or ‘never that’ is an illusion.
Luckily, I started to test this theory a few years ago.
By sheer stubbornness and even blind stupidity at times, I kept testing it.
We can change, and grow and decide just exactly who and what we’d like to be.
How would we like to show up today? How do we want our future to look?
These are absolutely blank-canvas questions. Will we paint only a quarter inch square on the corner of our huge canvas of possibility?
Will we stop when we get to the edges of new territory?
Will we dwell in the same place as always, getting the same results as always?
I ask these questions today, to remind myself that I too, at times, forget to keep pushing. Forget to test and try and travail.
Although, I put up this picture of my beautiful wife, on our beautiful wedding day, 11 months sober, and truly blessedly happy, to remember that at one time in life, my ‘personality’ would not have ‘fit’ into this situation.
“My personality’ would have found all the reasons why this situation was impossible. Possibly unwanted and for surely undeserved, I would’ve talked myself out of even thinking about ‘Me’ being the man smiling in this picture…
A bold person would call this change a miracle. They would be right 🙂
It wasn’t quick, it wasn’t easy, but obviously, it was possible. Maybe that’s how miracles really work?
They are available to you too. Right here, right now.