So I’m late again this week… I can’t call it writers block, how about a brain explosion! 🙂
Really back on the rails this week with work, website volunteering and lots of time spent listening to Philosopher’s Notes online…
I was Very lucky to receive a scholarship to this website in which, teacher, Brian Johnson, boils down the essence of the greatest philosophical and enlightening works of literature from the ancient to the cutting-edge. Perfect afternoon listening material to pump your spirit up!
Every PN on the website is mind-blowing, but one this week really rocked me. And, stopped me dead in my tracks…
It all started with the concept of converting from the DDT (dreaded drama triangle) to TED (the empowerment dynamic) triangle, as explained in The Power of TED, by David Emerald.
I won’t go into all the detail here, but the main Boom-Shocka-Lacka to my Bird-Brain was this:
We need to avoid the mindset of a “Rescuer” and instead become a true “Coach”… WELL, why dontcha just paint my cheeks pink!!
Ya’ know… divine timing is perfection…
I had to internalize this concept and really take a hard look. I know for certain that my passion and energy to spread the fundamentals of financial fitness are born from my desire to help others… Does that “help” word sometimes grow into the thought of Rescue?? Well, at times, I’m sure it has.
The problem with Rescue is that the inner perception is that others are not capable of helping themselves and therefore require someone else to step in.
Never in my mind did I use this exact vocabulary, but it’s nonetheless too close to true.
Okay, so now I realize that I’ve been “thinkin’ backwards” (as usual!) about the way to truly help people. I can now begin the process to do something about it.
A true “Coach” understands that each person has the strength and ability as Creators to design their own successes or failures. They have a full respect for the ability of those they want to help, to do it all by themselves. They can guide or encourage or be available for consult but are not soley responsible for the sinking or the swimming of the concerned party… it is up to them.
Now, this week’s blog may be nothing more than a journal-entry to myself – or – maybe, a shared experience to those I share with – or – truly, you can be assured that: This Guy, is Always learning and growing and is interested in doing the best job, I am capable of doing, to help You, reach Your Goals.
So, another journey begins. To be conscious of my mindset as a Challenger not a Persecutor, a Creator not a Victim and especially a True Coach and not a Rescuer!
I love learning new things and I’m certain with every new pair of “idea glasses” that I get to look through, the visions I see are more spectacular than ever… For Me, and For You!